Monday, June 18, 2012

A Man in Love

What makes a man suddenly decide he’s in love?

What makes a man take a good look at the woman who attracts him, and then stop, back up, and discuss with himself, before he takes a deep breath and reach a decision. That’s it. She’s the one.
How has SHE managed to attract him AND keep him?

She needs him. A man likes to be the one sheltering his woman. It makes him feel good about himself. Not that she’s vulnerable or helpless, but she often relies on him to build something for her, or help her fix her computer problems. How many times have you congratulate your man after he painted the walls, or remodelled the basement, or fixed the leaking faucet? All little tasks that a woman heartily abhors.

How many times have you called him when you have a flat tire on the high way?  Doesn’t he leave everything to come and replace the defective tire, and then tell you with a big smile, “Here you’re all set to go.” A kiss from you, a sigh of relief, or a big smile of admiration is all he needs for thank you.

She asks his opinion often. “Honey, should I invest in this stock, buy a house, or rent an apartment? Should I ask for an increase?" He loves you when you show him you value his brain.

She wears delicate feminine clothes. Any material that accentuates her feminine nature triggers an immediate response in men. Just wear a dress showing décolletage or molding your hips and watch his smile.

But she doesn’t cling and talk marriage. A word that means loss of freedom. A woman--or heroine-- who has her goal in life and shows she can be independent somehow makes her man comfortable enough to stay with her and pursue her. Even emotionally healthy men want assurance that their identities will be respected.

[Based on a study by Dr. P. Dobransky. The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love.]

When Greek billionaire Stefano decides to demolish the dilapidated villa inherited from his grandmother, the American co-owner refuses to sell his shares and sends his attorney—and pretty granddaughter—to contest the demolition. To check out the opposition before he faces at the hearing, Stefano meets her incognito and convinces her to take a sunset ride on his yacht. Sparks fly and passion sizzles during a memorable night.


In court, Ashley is in for a nasty surprise about her handsome Greek god and Stefano is about to lose the only woman who’s ever touched his heart. Will Stefano be able to convince Ashley he’s not the enemy anymore?


If you like to travel and love to read, come and enjoy my international romances. I will take you around the world through stories that simmer with emotion and sizzle with passion.

17 comments:

Vonnie Davis said...

Great post, Mona. Another difference in the sexes we need to remember as we write romance.

Paisley Kirkpatrick said...

You know I love traveling the world with you, Mona. This story sounds like another great read.

Autumn Jordon said...

All good points to remember when writing our heroes. Thanks, Mona.

Debra St. John said...

Mona, the timing of your post is perfect. I'm in the revising stages of a mss and am working on the hero's motivation today!

DebraStJohn

Mona Risk said...

Hi Vonnie, I was thinking at how the alpha hroes of now are not like the bodice-rippers of old historicals. We love our hero tender but strong both in life and in romances.

Mona Risk said...

Paisley, while writing this post I remembered your DH suspended on a ladder fixing something. Wow, what a hero. Or my DH walking on the roof to fix a tile.

Mona Risk said...

Hi Autumn, I thing strong and tender is a winner hero. And the heroine independent but smart enough to know the limit.

Mona Risk said...

Hi Debra, I am glad this post is helping you.

StephB said...

You know Mona your post made me think of when my husband and I were falling in love. He told me his co-workers would tease him because his head was always up in the clouds. I chuckled at that. Me? Heck, I couldn't focus either. When we played raquetball, he just beat me silly because I couldn't focus.

Smiles
Steph

Rolynn Anderson said...

Good post, Mona. You made the comment for my blog entry that your husband loves to travel. You have the bug, too, it's clear, and you help your readers enjoy travel vicariously (with a tender, stong man, of course). Good for you. Rolynn

Mona Risk said...

Hi Steph, I can just visualize you with your husband. You make a lovely couple.

Mona Risk said...

Yes Robin, he has the travel bug. I enjoy traveling but I wish I could spend some time at home doing what I like: writing!

Josie said...

Interesting blog, Mona. Men like women who are vulnerable, yet independent.

LK Hunsaker said...

Ah yes, men have that "fix it" need. I remember the look hubby gave me years ago when I said I didn't want him to fix it, I just wanted him to listen. It was like I was speaking a foreign language. It's quite endearing, though.

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morgan said...

Hi Mona,
Has a woman who grew up with fiercy independent widow women as role models, I have to make myself not do things so My hubby can come to the rescue. The laptop provides plenty of work for him. Trust me, I could not fix it even if I were so inclined.

He told me early on that he liked being needed. More proof to back up your initial article.

morgan said...

It should have been..as a woman.