Thursday, January 13, 2011


As we pass through stages in our lives, how do we flow with the changes. Do you fight change? Or adapt to the changes well?

As I look back over my life as I enter yet another new phase, I contemplate the changes I have been through. The changes of having children, going through a divorce and remarrying have been challenging at times. There are many things in my life I would never change, and yet there are some things that I am regretful for and would change in a heartbeat if I could just do it all over again.

As I was turning 40, ahem, I mean 29 again, I was the point in which I decided I hadn't done anything with my life that gave me a sense of accomplishment. Yes, I had three children, one of which was high functioning autistic, I had been through a divorce and gotten remarried and was riding the wave of blended families, stepchildren and trying to figure out how to just get through life at times. This was the moment in time I decided I was going to write the book I always wanted to write. It was at that moment I started seriously pursuing writing for publication.

It hasn't always been an easy road, but one that has its rewards. Along with the disappointments, I have found many wonderful friends to know that feeling of rejection and the feeling of finishing that manuscript. As I continue to write, I look at my life and see changes continue to happen. A maturity in handling different stresses that comes with age (and wisdom, I hope) and learning what really matters in life.

I continue to write for publication. Writing can be therapeutic for the times in my life I just wanted to forget. Yet, even as I continue writing I find myself more and more realizing the importance of family being around me. Maybe that is because my kids are getting older, one already gone off to college and the other two not far behind. I suddenly can see the years of kids being gone and the house being quiet getting closer and closer. My hope is that as I go through these changes, my writing will mature with me and change as well.

How does change affect your writing?


Paisley Kirkpatrick said...

A lot to think about Emma. I think it's how we face those changes - the ones we can control and the ones we can't. We lost a daughter to cancer and it was writing and writing friends that kept me sane and got me back into living again. Then when I had to face cancer as well, those same friends and the characters in my head pulled me through. I love going some place where I control what happens because so far the changes in my life have not been in my control. Life is good again and each day is a blessing.

Jill James said...

I guess it depends on how you view change. Some people like change, it is exciting. Some people fight change, tooth and nail to keep the status quo.

I like change. I know the writing I'm doing now, I never could have accomplished at an earlier age. I needed to ripen, like a fine wine. To gather wisdom and knowledge to flavor my writing.

Emma Leigh said...

Thanks for stopping by Jill and Paisley. I at time fight changes, but I am learning to go with them.

My writer friends are the ones that tend to pull me through the most through those trying times.

Joanne said...

As a writer, I'm constantly being influenced by changes in my life. Most of the time, I fight any change--no matter how small.